A bit of a different post today.
It's said that being a woman is like being an internet browser with about 8 tabs open at a time.
I think that Offspring's Nina Proudman is a character that connects with women because she has a lot of internal chatter. Some of it uncomfortable.
Some of it is just banalities. What to pick up from the supermarket. Who to call.
A lot of it has a bit more of an emotional edge. Fears. Doubts. Worries. Worries about stuff that will in all likelihood never, ever eventuate. Assumptions about what other people think.
Stuff that, if it is said out loud, loses power, as it doesn't make a great deal of sense, or is unhelpful.
When there are too many tabs open full of crap (say facebook, twitter, a few unhelpful diets, and 3 email accounts) it can be overwhelming.
It can make the computer shit itself and go all slowly. We need a way to press ctrl-alt-delete on it.
A good internal "ctrl-alt-delete" mechanism is a good thing. We all need to tell ourselves "stop, just hang on" sometimes.
It is really important, too, that we have an external ctrl-alt-delete mechanism. A person to talk to, that we can workshop some of the cray-cray shit with.
One that won't judge or necessarily offer solutions, but reinforce our own trust in ourselves. One that we trust, that we can make ourselves vulnerable to, that we feel safe with. It is a function of both the person and our own ability to put trust in others.
It is good if we have somebody in our lives like that.
Even if we have to pay them to take that role!
So tell me...
Do you have an 8-tab browser mind?
Can you press ctrl-alt-delete on yourself?
Do you have a person who you can download to?