Sorry, you have probably this meme before.
I like it.
I am trying to win the battle in my head with poor self/body image. It's an ongoing one.
I try to walk past the mirror or and not criticise the reflection. I try not to cringe at a photo of myself. That automatic negativity, I call out and challenge.
Trying to reconcile self acceptance (not even love) with feeding myself good food and exercising (and seeing these as nourishment rather than punishment). I am getting there with that one. Certainly, when I exercise, I walk taller and feel powerful.
I try to make the best of what I have. I even put a bit of effort into my 'do today because I'm worth it.
That is just the battle in my head.
Not even the insidious and constant reinforcement from advertising that strokes the "you are not [insert adjective here] enough" gland.
But what about the people that you actually speak with?
Two examples recently
1. In a shop, I tried on a dress. It was not flattering so I didn't buy. I looked at another, said "nice dress". The (very thin) saleslady said "oh that dress is lovely on women with a fuller figure".
Befuddled, I walked out of the shop. I didn't really know what to make of that. But I don't think I will go in there again.
2. A few friends, thinner than I, complaining about their weight to me, and relaying weight loss wins.
I don't think either of them meant any harm.
And I won't call them out on it.
But I would like to propose a couple of blanket rules -
1. Sales staff should not make any judgements about a person's figure. A simple "that looks nice" is fine. Even if it is a lie. It's about moving stock off the floor, right?
Even "that looks nice, very slimming" gets up my nose a bit, to tell the truth.
2. Be careful who you share your own body image/weight issues with.
Weight is a fraught issue and body image so very easily shot to shit.
People should just drink a big cup of shut the fuck up, I say.
I work with people with significant obesity (we are not just talking 5 or 10kg) and I try to a. focus on the physical and mental health issues and b. (if it's a female) pay them a compliment or take an interest. On some level, I identify.
I like this song.