So those readers o mine who are my friends on crackbook might have noticed that I have gone AWOL.
It all came about when I read an article on FebFast. Traditionally FebFast was about giving up alcohol for a month (!). Now they have gotten canny and you can detox from anything - sugar, junk food and social media.
It got me wondering about my use of it. I am on it multiple times per day. First thing in the morning and before sleep. It's so accessible. Going to the webpage was just something I did, like a twitch. Type F into the browser and autocomplete takes you straight to the page. Often the first thing I did when I felt stressed or overwhelmed (which is often during thesis-writing) was press F on the browser. Often without any particular thought process.
I am self-aware enough to know that I am a bit given to impulsive behaviours (these things being partly genetically determined and governed by dopamine), especially when stressed. And, to tell the truth, I probably was/am addicted to Facebook. Partly as an escape, a procrastination method, or from FOMO.
I decided quickly (impulsively?) that the best thing to do would be to go cold turkey. When pushing the F button become so automatic, a slow wean would not do.
I have heard psychiatrists say that, when they counsel addicts, they often ask them the good things about their addiction. Here are mine:
- Keeping in touch with people.
I have cousins who are on facebook. I only know them as they are now from facebook, and I wouldn't know how to contact them outside of that. And, as harsh as that sounds, I am ok with that.
- Stalking people from my high school
- Some genuinely funny/heartwarming/happy status updates, and lovely photos. I miss them. But I can deal with that, because I can see most of those people IRL (in real life).
- Sometimes I just want to share my thoughts, however, it is not actually essential that I share them!
- Videos like this
And the things I am relishing now:
- More time!
And I have time to blog!
- Less overload/overwhelm
- Less of a need to vet myself.
Pros and cons of FB? What do you like and not like?